Perfect Wedding Speeches
Perfect Wedding Speeches
Best wedding speeches ever
If you’re not used to public speaking, then making a wedding speech can be very daunting. With this in mind, I have prepared a few important tips to help you overcome your nerves and deliver a great wedding speech.
1. Remember these people are on your side. So Give your best wedding speeches ever. They aren’t secretly hoping you’ll mess things up. The reason you’re there giving a speech is because you are connected with the people there, and so are the audience. Bearing this in mind, you can rest assured that anything you say in your wedding speech will be listened to and respected fully.
Also, people listening to speeches at weddings are wanting to laugh as this breaks the tension. So any vague attempt of a joke will get you a response.
2. Practice your wedding speech thoroughly. The more your practice, the less nervous you’ll feel on the actual day. Remember to practice the intonation of your voice and the pauses. By showing you’ve put effort into your preparation, any mistakes you may make on the day will be easily forgiven.
3. Learn your speech by heart. Whenever you have some spare time, in the car on the way to work, in the shower or wherever…practice your speech. Repeat it over and over again as many times as you can before the big day. You will feel much calmer on the big day as you’ll know the whole speech inside out.
4. Remember to breathe. As simple as this sounds, it is often overlooked. Practice where you’ll take a breath in the speech, and learn to breathe correctly. Diaphragmatic breathing, as used by singers and public speakers, will help you here. If you’re unfamiliar with this, a quick search on Google will show you.
5. Think of a funny story before you stand up. Nothing so funny that you loose you focus, but something mildly titillating that will bring a smile to your face. This will loosen you up, and give a nice energy to your wedding speech that will improve the delivery immensely.
6. Have a banana 20 minutes before you make your speech. This tip is often used by professional public speakers, and helps the nerves of many people. It also gives a nice energy boost which helps reduce your nerves.
7. Speak slowly and clearly. If you are nervous, you will feel the urge to speed up and your speech will become unclear. So try to consciously slow yourself down and speak clear so people can hear what you say.
8. Make eye contact with people in the audience so it feels like your just chatting with everyone who is there.
9. Lastly, remember to simply enjoy yourself! Your life isn’t going to end if you make a few mistakes…and it will be over in just a few minutes. Have fun!
Who should really give a speech.
Traditionally, it was the father of the bride, the groom and the best man. Three blokes and only one of them was meant to be funny. In a world where we have same sex marriages, more diverse family set ups, people getting married later in life and, who would believe it, women who are funny – we don’t agree. The traditional etiquette can work a treat (and it might work wonderfully for you) but consider your options. Ideally you don’t want more than four speakers (with clear guidelines on expected durations) so pick wisely…
It’s fair enough if you’d prefer to sit back and scoff the champers while others say nice things about you but there’s a lot of benefits to bride’s giving a speech. Firstly guests love it; it’s fun, fresh and still unusual enough to be cool. It’s also a sure fire way of speaking to everyone on the day even if it is via a microphone. You might also find it’s a rather lovely opportunity to be really lovely to your new husband. If you can’t quite tackle the nerves of giving a solo speech, consider giving a joint Mr & Mrs speech. Your groom might jump at the chance of taking the pressure off him.
Maybe your dad isn’t around or maybe you just think your mum would relish the opportunity to get a word in. We also find the mother of the groom generally has a lot to say so consider all options. Whether it’s the mums or the dads, reassure them that their speech doesn’t need to be long; certainly no potty-training anecdotes required.
The old or the young
It’s lovely to have a quirky speaker in the line-up; someone who has absolutely no etiquette to follow and immediately puts a smile on people’s faces. We heard a great speech by an 89 year old grandpa; there was no formalities, no toast but a few good anecdotes and a great sense of love and affection. Another idea is considering a younger speaker, perhaps a teenage niece’s take on love or a Winnie the Pooh passage read by your godson.
Maid of honour
Already very popular in America, we’re now seeing more maid of honour speeches over here too. Some are sweet and some much funnier than the best man’s effort. Decide which you’d like and give them a steer before you let them loose.
You may want to opt for no formal speeches but welcome anyone to raise a toast to you if the notion takes them over the meal. This adds a bit of spontaneity to proceedings and takes the pressure off the traditional speakers. It can also help solve some of the moral crisis that can result from complicated family set-ups. Be warned though, by the time the table wine has been drunk and the desserts are on the table, there may be a lot of people wanting to get involved!
Speaking to the speakers
Finally, once you’ve decided who you’d like to give a speech it’s time to let everyone know. We wouldn’t recommend ‘dropping’ a traditional speaker unless you know they’d appreciate being ‘let off the hook’ but encouraging them to keep it ‘short and sweet’ is perfectly acceptable. We like this quote from George Davidson (etiquette expert) ‘whatever is appropriate for a particular marriage or partnership in particular circumstances is always the right option’. Which to us means, do what you want without making anyone cry.